Monday, June 4, 2012

Can't Talk about the Affair Anymore

So, I've made a habit of poking fun at my husband. You know, whenever something about cheating comes up, which is mostly daily, I will make some crack about it to him. I will admit I am quite harsh at times. But, whatever he was harsh our whole marriage.

Yesterday, we had a fight and in his selfish fashion said that the affair hurts him too, and how do I think it makes him feel when I crack jokes about it. Obviously it's my way to cope, but see, he wants to be over it.

So I told him I wouldn't talk about the affair ever again. Jerk.

So where does that leave me? Crying in my dreams, as he informed me about this morning. I also have a money spending problem, which okay, was already going on. But yeah, I feel it to be a stress reliever.

Anyway, I think I am going to ave to seek therapy from someone new. Husband dearest already claimed golden boy status with our current one.

If I cant talk about the affair to him, I am going to have to vent somehow and the blog only helps a little.

3 comments:

  1. of course he just wants it to be over with and you to move on because everytime you bring it up he feels guilty which he should. But I think it is the right thing to do if you want to save your marriage. That is what you have to accept - are you in or are you out and then you have to be all in or all out. Give it a go or get out. Giving it a go means you open your heart back up a little and give him a chance. I know it is scary and I know he might hurt you again but the truth is love is a risk, but it's worth it. You have to decide if he is.

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  2. Aw thank you for responding... You are so right. It's so hard though. :( Not talking about is really hard on me, but I think therapy will help me through. Are you also dealing with this mess?

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  3. I think you should still talk about it with him. Cracking jokes at his expense probably should stop, but he can't dictate the terms of your recovery. Two years out, I still think the wisecracks, but I don't share them with him!

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