So, I've made a habit of poking fun at my husband. You know, whenever something about cheating comes up, which is mostly daily, I will make some crack about it to him. I will admit I am quite harsh at times. But, whatever he was harsh our whole marriage.
Yesterday, we had a fight and in his selfish fashion said that the affair hurts him too, and how do I think it makes him feel when I crack jokes about it. Obviously it's my way to cope, but see, he wants to be over it.
So I told him I wouldn't talk about the affair ever again. Jerk.
So where does that leave me? Crying in my dreams, as he informed me about this morning. I also have a money spending problem, which okay, was already going on. But yeah, I feel it to be a stress reliever.
Anyway, I think I am going to ave to seek therapy from someone new. Husband dearest already claimed golden boy status with our current one.
If I cant talk about the affair to him, I am going to have to vent somehow and the blog only helps a little.
Monday, June 4, 2012
Can't Talk about the Affair Anymore
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of course he just wants it to be over with and you to move on because everytime you bring it up he feels guilty which he should. But I think it is the right thing to do if you want to save your marriage. That is what you have to accept - are you in or are you out and then you have to be all in or all out. Give it a go or get out. Giving it a go means you open your heart back up a little and give him a chance. I know it is scary and I know he might hurt you again but the truth is love is a risk, but it's worth it. You have to decide if he is.
ReplyDeleteAw thank you for responding... You are so right. It's so hard though. :( Not talking about is really hard on me, but I think therapy will help me through. Are you also dealing with this mess?
ReplyDeleteI think you should still talk about it with him. Cracking jokes at his expense probably should stop, but he can't dictate the terms of your recovery. Two years out, I still think the wisecracks, but I don't share them with him!
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