Thursday, October 28, 2010

The Rage of Infidelity

I have never felt the intensity of feelings as I have when I found out that my husband was not only telling some other girl that he loved her, missed her, and wanted her, but also having sex with her.

Oh, it's all fun and games until the wifey finds out...then all hell breaks loose! No one, including myself, ever heard or felt the fury of my rage.

As I work on my marriage (because stupid actually says he loves me), I am prepared to tell my story about my personal journey through infidelity recovery. Here's my reality show; there will be good times and bad times...very very bad times. Buckle up, you're about to embark on MY emotional rollar coaster ride!


  1. Thanks for writing this blog... I just discovered it and am traveling a similar road. (Only in my case stupid isn't saying he loves me -its just "I love you but am not in love with you") :( I'm still trying to fight for our marriage, hoping he'll see what an idiot he's been and decide to try to work things out.

    Maybe I will get the courage up to post under something other than Anonymous, but right now I'm just too fragile.

  2. Hi Anonymous! Welcome to the club none of us wants to be a part of ...or should I say welcome to a spouse's worst nightmare? UGH!

    As you can see, I am anonymous as well. I am so full of shame because of my husband that I couldn't ever use my name. So don't worry about staying "anonymous" - I understand.

    I'm sorry that your husband isn't saying the things you so desperately want him to say. I hope that he does hit "rock bottom" and realizes how good he has it before it's too late. :(

    Keep coming back!

  3. I think there are a lot of us out here who have husbands who can't say they love us and be honest when they say it. I know my husband refused a divorce to be with his OW when he found out she was screwing around with others and didn't really love him. It hurts when I tell him I love him and he can't say it back, but I'd rather he be honest than lie to me any more. You are among the lucky ones I guess whose husband is trying and working to rebuild. Good luck. I just found your blog a few days ago. I'm enjoying the read. It shows me I should feel some anger. I can't seem to work it up. I just have a deep sadness.

  4. {{HUGS}}

    Everyone's situation is so much different but yet we all are in the same situation - our husbands have done the unthinkable to us and we are left to deal with the aftermath of it. My heart aches for you having to deal with your husband who can't tell you that he loves you but I must say I had to think "serves him right" when you said the OW was sleeping with others. Karma is a bitch...
    Hope you can hang out some more and find some comfort. Don't worry about your emotions - they are serving its purpose for the process that only you need to go through.


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