Friday, November 26, 2010

Picking the Right Counselor for Infidelity Help

It's imperative that victims of infidelity seek some sort of therapy to effectively deal with the aftermath of infidelity. Without professional help, you may struggle longer than is healthy and permanently damage your ability to not only trust your cheating spouse but anyone who you come into contact with in any type of relationship.

Not all therapists are created equal. I am myself a counselor and can tell whether or not a therapist is truly being genuine in efforts as an effective counselor.

It's important to understand that not everyone benefits from the same "good" counselor. Therefore, seeking help from someone only because someone recommended the person may not be your best choice. You have to mesh with your therapist. Your personalities must work well together and rapport building should be easy and comfortable with him or her.

It's also important that the counselor is working on issues with you to get you from A to B. The therapist I have right now is not doing this. She is more like a sound board rather than a partner in my process of recovering from infidelity.

Together with your therapist, you should establish goals and discuss steps to reach those goals. Each session should address at least one of them and there should be activities or something to work on outside of the session so that work done in therapy can crossover into your life, giving you the ability to apply coping skills.

That's it for now but there are some other factors you should consider when choosing a counselor for surviving infidelity, so check back.

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